At the University of California Santa Barbara, they have a website that is operated by the sociology department that says small children, especially ages 4 to 7 should be allowed to experiment with sexual activity.
So if you see Billy with his hand inside Susie’s PJs, you should encourage it and not make the children feel like they were doing anything wrong. Their website – SexInfo Online – says that sex play between young children is normal and should be encouraged. The site is operated by students “who have studied advanced topics in human sexuality.” They even say that you should encourage your kids to engage in gay sex.
A section on the website reads: “Children might display affection to their friends by hugging and kissing or touching each other’s genitals, which is perfectly normal. Parents should not react in a negative way because children are just exploring.”
“If a child is performing these activities excessively or in public, parents should sit down and talk with them about how these activities should be done in private versus of trying to thwart the activity altogether.”
What about same-sex play?
“Childhood Sexuality” also encourages parents to teach their children that masturbation is not “dirty or bad” but is a “private matter and should not be performed in public.”
The section also notes that even if children are engaging in same-sex sexual play, parents should “keep their reactions to such activities positive.”
“As children age, however, their sexual play encounters are more often associated with peers of the same sex, since boys and girls tend to ‘play separately,’” the passage adds. “Experts recommend that parents keep their reactions to such activities positive, since sexual play is normal and allows the child to develop into a sexually healthy adult. Children engaging in same-sex sexual play is not necessarily an indication of a homosexual identity, just as children engaging in other-sex sexual play is not necessarily an indication of heterosexual identities.”